
Being robbed/prevented from completing the building of an amazing plan last week, I felt there was only one thing worse and that was being hacked by scammers who also prey on the elderly (my focus this week).
Not to say that I’m elderly yet, but there are plenty of seniors who have fallen prey to those wily schemes. In the past, our “elders” would have the family’s and community’s honor. Nowadays there are no laws to protect seniors who willingly give to charlatans playing a “part” (for money).
Mid-19th century, the “scammers” were called snake oil salesmen, charlatans. My father was excellent at sniffing them out. Some would call the house (my dad would answer, set the phone down and walk away, until they got tired of talking). That was before the digital robocall problem.
Today, when an elder in your family is a victim, everyone is a victim. Why? Because the scammer has convinced the elder to trust him, not listen to those who truly love her. In the meantime, he can glean the whole family’s personal information through her. These men (and women) are professional criminals, working internationally.
I’ve had to learn the hard way to withhold information being asked me by my elder or withhold texts (to her “new” cell number) because of the connection to scammers who can enter your own computer if you click on their message (that has your loved one’s phone identifier/name on it).
The verse I’ve been reciting frequently over the past three months when dealing with the climax of this tricky problem is: “Great is the Lord and greatly to be praised, His greatness is beyond our comprehension” (Psalm 145:3)
When you’ve been raised “right” by your elder but they have swallowed the message of those who are wily (hook, line and sinker), then you must outsmart the criminals who are trying to drain the entire river of all its resources. (Only through God -Psalm 145:3 again)
To my amazement, God is bringing resolution to all the concerns we’ve had in ways that I would not have thought possible. Although the past five years have been tiring, God has worked in ways that are beyond what I could have asked or imagined.
At every turn, God was testing my heart as well. Was I willing to give up my personal comforts to care for my elder (and the comfort/resources of my family although they were innocent and not connected to her bad judgments)? Was I willing to stand in the gap for her in prayer and with time, oversight, consults and documentation? Was I willing to listen, encourage, help her connect with good people?
Doctors say that brain changes can occur as early as in the thirties for some with a predisposition to these type of brain injuries (injuries that wreak havoc on judgement). If someone’s actions seem strange, then don’t neglect a neuro exam.
Just when the burden seemed too great, God opened another door. Now I’m rejoicing that I did not have to complete my “not so amazing” plan. I’m seeing the way that I was “robbed” intellectually and monetarily as God shedding light on the seriousness of the deception taking place. (Aka requiring warfare on a spiritual level- the battle is the Lord’s)
By outdoing one another with honor, I propose we take a fresh look at Paul’s instructions in Romans 12. Giving thought to do what is honorable in everyone’s sight, means not repaying evil for evil. It may look different for each situation and be especially unique for those who are protecting their vulnerable elder.
One excellent audible book that helped me was written and narrated by Marc Swift. He gave literal examples of what I was going through as he documented his journey with his elderly parents. The premise that he worked from was to find the place of love in their memories and reconnect. Tap into God’s love for them and for ourselves as caregivers.
I guess the lesson for today is by giving honor, we also treat ourselves honorably. We should not stoop to a level of anger or malice that heightens the actual problem being faced. -Teresa #love
Romans 12:9-21 ESV **
Marks of the True Christian
9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit,[g]serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.[h] Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it[i]to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.Read full chapter
Footnotes
- Romans 12:1 Or brothers and sisters
- Romans 12:1 Or your rational service
- Romans 12:2 Greek age
- Romans 12:2 Or what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God
- Romans 12:4 Greek parts; also verse 5
- Romans 12:8 Or gives aid
- Romans 12:11 Or fervent in the Spirit
- Romans 12:16 Or give yourselves to humble tasks
- Romans 12:19 Greek give place
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**OneYearBibleonline




